Finding our confidence can be a challenge when we’ve hit rock bottom. But if you’re anything like me, I can’t stay in such a miserable state for too long. At some point, I have to come up for air. I realize that enough is enough and I start making a conscious effort to improve my confidence and stop my negative thinking. At first the effort to feel better may feel forced, but that’s ok. Eventually your mood will start to lift and it will feel more natural.
7 Strategies to Sky Rocket Your Confidence:
- Pay attention to your thoughts. When you say something degrading to yourself, replace it with something positive, even if it feels contrived at first. You deserve the compliment, not the degradation.
- Notice what you’re doing right. Keep a notebook in your purse and write down your successes, no matter how small. This will start to change your focus from negative to positive.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. That person you’re comparing yourself to has a whole life behind that stellar career or fabulous derrière. Stop comparing because you don’t know the whole picture.
- Use positive self-talk to remind yourself of how awesome you are. You don’t have to believe the nice things you say about yourself, just say them. I mean really, Sister, the negative crapola you tell yourself around the clock IS NOT TRUE, and for some reason you believe that, so for now, just pretend that the positive words are true, ok? Wouldn’t you rather believe the positive than the negative if you had a choice? (psst…and you do have a choice).
- Pay attention to your posture and your body language. Your body and mind are connected and if you’re all hunched over and caved in, that sends a message to your brain that you’re insecure and trying to hide from the world. Pull back those shoulders, stand up tall, and remember to look people in the eyes when you’re talking to them. Eye contact is a sure sign of confidence!
- Take time to relax and rejuvenate. When you’re having a bout with deflated confidence, you tend to be overly critical of yourself, which can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. Take some time to relax and pamper yourself to show your saboteur that you really are worth it.
- Break down daunting tasks into small, achievable goals, and remember to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments along the way.
What are some tricks that you use to boost your self-confidence? Please share below!
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