Whether you’re successfully rockin’ your New Year’s resolution, or think New Year’s resolutions are a bunch of crap, I’m about to throw you a curveball. Ready? Catch!
“Be” First, Then “Do”
We may sometimes forget it, but life is not just about what we do, it’s also about how we’re being amidst all the doing. I don’t care if you set New Year’s resolutions or not. If you’re a woman with a jam-packed schedule and big goals, listen up.
How we’re being has to do with how joyful we feel as we go through the actions of our day, the vibe we give off, and how others experience us. Is our breath steady and deep, or is our chest clenched and our breath shallow? (Check in with your breathing right now and find out.) Do we take the time to interact and be present with important people in our life, or are our interactions brief and distracted? Are the emotions behind what we’re doing positive and uplifting, or are they driven by anxiety and stress?
Sometimes we get so caught up in the doing part of life, that the being part gets overlooked.
But how we’re being is extremely important. Being is our experience of life. When we look back on our life, we will likely remember how we have been (we lived a joyful life) over what we have done (cleaned the bathroom, wrote our business plan, or bought the perfect dining room table). How we are being also comprises other people’s experience of us. As Maya Angelou said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
What impact are you having on the people in your life?
The impact you have has everything to do with how you are being and nothing to do with what you are doing. Use me as an example: If I were doing all the same things as the founder of Daring Divas USA—organizing awesome events for women, sending out this newsletter, and facilitating my coaching groups—but was being insecure, negative, or overbearing, do you think I would have much of a positive impact on women’s lives? I highly doubt it.
Being is important to me because it directly impacts my ability to accomplish my dreams. When I am engaged, joyful, full of life, love, and compassion for both myself and others, I not only have a positive impact on other people, but I attract what I want into my own life. I encourage you to do the same!
Tip: Ask yourself the following questions to bring awareness to how you’re being:
- When I interact with my significant other, am I being the kind of partner I want to be?
- When I interact with my children, am I being the kind of mother I want to be?
- When I interact with my parents, am I being the kind of daughter I want to be?
- How does interacting with me affect other people in my community? (Do I leave the clerk at the grocery store smiling or scowling?)
- How is my breathing? (Is it steady and at ease or is it tight and shallow?)
- If I were to die tomorrow, with no time to change how I’m being in my life, how would I be remembered?
- What is my most prevalent emotional state? What effect does this emotional state have on how I am being in my life?
- What physical sensations do I notice in my stomach and chest? (Is there a knot in my stomach or a constricted feeling in my chest?)
Remember that accomplishing great things is wonderful, but first we must focus on being the person that will get us there!
How do you choose to be in your life? Come over to the Daring Divas USA Facebook page and let us know!
Cheers to your extraordinarily daring life!
Big hugs and lots of love,
Certified Professional Co-Active Coach
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